Love - Unique, and Common
I’ve been putting this one off for a while, but I think it’s ready now.
Over the years, my view on love has changed. When I was younger, I thought that when you fall in love, that’s it. You’ve found your soul mate and your search is over. If there are problems, it doesn’t matter, because that’s the person you were “meant” to be with.
I put the word “meant” in quotations because right away, there’s the first problem. Nothing is “meant” to be. When you see things as being “meant to be”, life can become very disappointing. Things don’t work out and you think to yourself “how can this be? it was supposed to work out!”. No it wasn’t supposed to, because nothing is.
What I’ve found now is that love, although unique, is not uncommon. If you fall in love with someone, that relationship you have with that person will never be replicated. No one can ever take their place, but that doesn’t mean you’ll never fall in love again.
If you’re in a relationship where you love someone but don’t know if they’re the right person for you, don’t stay in the relationship just because you don’t think you’ll ever fall in love with someone else - you will.
It’s sort of disillusioning when you realize this, but I believe this is the way it is.
3 years ago